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| It can cause two different reactions in couples. A bulletproof union, or separation and even divorce. |
The arrival of a child with any type of unexpected condition, can cause two different reactions in couples. Union proof of everything, or separation and even divorce.
Couples can join more than ever and strengthen themselves in the challenge, assuming together the natural feelings that this situation implies.Or otherwise, couples can divorce as a result of the high stress that this experience brings to their lives, and that accentuates the differences that already existed.
A son is never the reason for divorce, but sometimes the experience becomes the trigger that puts an end to the relationship. Divorce rates are high, especially in those who have received a child with special needs.
How divorce affects children with Autism?
For every child it is a painful experience, but in the case of children with developmental challenges it can be even more difficult to process the emotional difficulty involved in understanding that one of the parents has left the house.
Even typical children have difficulty expressing their feelings in this situation, so it is to be expected that children with disabilities will face even more challenges because of their inability to ask questions, or express what they are feeling. By not developing the typical reasoning can live this separation as a constant loss, which causes stress problems and behavioral changes that are seen in the behavior, and are reflected at the time of sleep, school performance, or meals .
How to make this process more easy?
Sometimes the words are not enough to explain the situation. This is a moment where the reinforcement of communication becomes more important than ever, and it helps them to recover their security through techniques that will make them visually identify what is happening, showing them that they have not lost the absent father.
-Helping them to have independence to feel that they can communicate with their father at any time is also important. Programming your phone with a key dial to make a call when you like on your own initiative, is an excellent idea that gives you the freedom to feel close and connected.
-Regardless of differences as a couple, parents have to do their best to share together the special days when children need a family model, birthdays and special occasions. Both are equally valuable to the child, and in the hands of the absent parent is not to lose this gift.
-Divorce should not be the beginning of a war, but the beginning of a agreement in which both parents commit themselves to do their best for the good of the children. Something that we must never forget is that our main task is to make our children happy. We can think that a marriage was a failure or a bad decision, but a child never is, and it will always be the gift that gave us love and that we must respect forever.
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| Divorce shouldn't be the beginning of a long-term war, but the beginning of a peaceful agreement in which both parents commit themselves to do their best for the good of the children. |
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